Zen and the Absurdity of Parenting

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There’s a Zen for everything today – surfing, fishing, even coding. So of course we have Zen parenting, but let’s just put it out there that it’s NOT constant peace and serenity. I suggest we establish that Zen parenting is about embracing absurdity. Parenting, like a perplexing Zen koan, often calls for the abandonment of logic and the acceptance of paradox. It sometimes feels like a difficult homework problem that we’ll never solve. And that’s okay.

What is Mindfulness?

Mindful Life

We hear about mindfulness everywhere these days… but what is it? And how do we do it?

What Dead Poets Society Taught Me About Being a Teacher

Dead Poets Society

We may remember him as Mork, Mrs. Doubtfire, Peter Pan, or the Genie, but for me, Robin Williams will always be Mr. Keating. I first watched Dead Poets Society in high school. It’s one of those movies that stays with you, isn’t it? Its embrace of youthful idealism and romanticism entranced me as a teenager. […]

5 Ways Meditation is Like a Monet Painting

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While sitting in silent meditation, the following thought popped into my head: “Meditation kind of reminds me of Monet’s paintings of the cathedral in Rouen.” Seriously. Read what the Impressionists can teach us about meditation, the self, impermanence, light, sensation, perception, and the fleeting impression of NOW.

To the Mom Who Wishes She Wasn’t a Mom…

To the mom who wishes she wasn't a mom

If you’ve ever thought, “I wish I wasn’t a mom,” this letter is for you. If you’ve ever said, “I don’t like being a mom,” this letter is for you. We don’t always like motherhood, just as we don’t always like our jobs or our houses or our spouses. But there IS a path to joy. And it starts NOW, in this very moment.

The Space Between: Help Your Toddler Thrive

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I get nervous when I hear about parenting approaches that are “child-centered.” Perhaps it’s because I’m a teacher and I don’t like the phrase “student-centered.” It’s not that I don’t care about my students or their needs, but I don’t think they are the center of the classroom. I don’t think I am the center […]

What It’s Like to Go on a Silent Meditation Retreat: The Strange, the Challenging, and the Ahh-MAZE-ing!

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Ever wondered what a silent meditation retreat is like? Completely disconnecting from the digital world, and not speaking, reading, or even making eye contact with other people? Read more to learn about the challenging and oh-so-amazing experiences from my silent retreat…

10 AWESOME Things About a Vacation With Kids!

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Does the thought of a week-long, trans-Atlantic European vacation with kids terrify you? Let me tell you why ours was AWESOME!

The Pursuit of Public Happiness

Pursuit of Happiness

This week we {in the United States} celebrate the 4th of July, the signing of the Declaration of Independence, and “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” But did you know that this famous phrase by Thomas Jefferson originally read “life, liberty, and the pursuit of public happiness”? When editor Benjamin Franklin read that version, […]

10 Ways to Teach Mindfulness to Kids

Teach Mindfulness to Kids

Mindfulness is good for us, AND good for our children. Get started with these strategies to teach mindfulness to kids!

“Mommy, What ARE We?”: Rethinking Religion

Rethinking Religion

As my seven-year-old learns more about the world, she is learning that some of her friends are Jewish, some are Hindu, and some are Christian. “What are we?” she asked me the other day. Um….. I tried to explain how I don’t think there’s really one label that would fit me: I’m not Christian but […]

Mindful Parenting: Equanimity and a Screaming Child

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Mindful parenting is not perfect parenting. It’s applying our mindful awareness to the practice of parenting. It is cultivating equanimity, even in the midst of chaos. It’s learning to surf instead of being tossed around in the storm.

A Nighttime Meditation for Compassionate Parenting

Baby Sleeping

Don’t you love it when they’re asleep? Don’t they look so sweet and innocent? For me, checking on my sleeping children at night is a treasured ritual. Stepping into their dark, quiet bedrooms becomes a moving meditation. The whining, sassing, yelling, and fighting from the day are nowhere to be seen on their dreaming faces. […]