When Mantras Fail: The Therapeutic Value of an F-Bomb

When Mantras Fail: The Therapeutic Value of an F-Bomb

Many times I have shared with you the value of mantras – centering phrases, like “Let it be” or “It is what it is” – to sustain us during our parenting challenges. Our mantras remind us to breathe and not let our frustration take over. Most of the time, they work. But...
Parenting as Pilgrimage

Parenting as Pilgrimage

Next week, many of us will gather to celebrate Thanksgiving. We’ll decorate our tables with orange and red and brown candles, with leaves and turkeys and cornucopias, and perhaps men and women in grim black costumes. For Thanksgiving is a celebration of gratitude, the...
Why I Love Reading Parenting Books

Why I Love Reading Parenting Books

When I was a little kid, I thought my parents knew everything. And not just because they’re uber-smart. They just seemed to know everything about raising kids. My dad just knew the perfect stories to tell me before bed, like the stories he made up about a little girl,...
Our Bedtime Ritual: A Help, a Thanks, or a Wow

Our Bedtime Ritual: A Help, a Thanks, or a Wow

In our secular household, we haven’t established a bedtime routine with nightly prayers, or traditions like going to church on Sundays. But my daughter, now 7, is becoming aware that her friends go to church on Sundays, and we don’t. They say their prayers each night,...